Can chronic pain and illness actually bring couples closer together?


Couples can rise above bad experiences, like chronic pain, and love each other not in spite of it but sometimes even because of it.


“In fact years ago, Leslie and I, my wife Leslie and I wrote a book called ‘When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages.’ That’s really the point, is that you can love each other not in spite of that bad thing but sometimes even because of that bad thing. It can bring you closer together. Every marriage, no matter how good it is, eventually bumps its head on something painful. For some people, that’s infertility, for some people, that’s as serious as infidelity or bankruptcy, or sometimes it’s migraine. Whatever that bad thing is, we know what it takes for certain couples to rise above that and experience the kind of love that they dream of, not in spite of it but even because of it.”

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Les Parrott, PhD

Center for Relationship Development

Dr. Les Parrott is a psychologist and #1 New York Times bestselling author. He and his wife, Dr. Leslie Parrott, are co-founders of the Center for Relationship Development in Seattle. Their books have sold more than 3 million copies and include: Love Talk, Your Time-Starved Marriage, Crazy Good Sex, The Good Fight, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.

Les and Leslie are founders of the game-changing online tool for couples: Les has been featured in USA Today, the Wall Street Journal, and The New York Times. He has appeared on a variety of television programs including: CNN, The Today Show, GMA, The View, and Oprah. Visit